Gay Life in Botswana 2016--and Beyond

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
Updated October 2021

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By coincidence I arrived in Gaborone, the capital of Botswana, on a quiet yet historic day of human rights in Botswana: for the first time ever a law suit was filed against the government of Botswana claiming that the existing law criminalizing homosexual behavior (vs ‘being’ homosexual) is unconstitutional. (photo right, parliament buiilding)

In 2019 homosexuality was decriminalized by the Supreme Court.

The suit was  jointly filed by LeGaBiBo gay organization (Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals of Botswana) and a Botswana human rights organization, Bonela (Botswana Network on Ethics, Laws and HIV/AIDS)who have been planning the submission for months. At the press conference the director of Bonela described how the law unfairly discriminates against a certain portion of citizens and is therefore against the constitutional guarantee of equal rights.

In their joint press release they stated: “Homosexuality has been in African culture since time immemorial; it is actually homophobia that is ‘un African’. it was the European colonialists and preachers who imported the hatred against same sex behaviour. They brought the criminal categorization of that behaviour. The acts were indigenous. The name and the crime were imported. The sex laws that some politicians now defend are themselves colonial impositions…. Individual identity and individual sexuality are constructed on basic humanness, ‘botho’ (respect and good manners) the self and the inherent right to be ‘authentic’–not coerced or imposed by majority culture or religion as suggested by many conservative traditionalists and religious fundamentalists.

“Sexual orientation is essentially a private and personal issue. Unfortunately it has become a public political tool for power and influence in Botswana, misused by politicians, legal authorities and clergy as puppet issue to advocate for  an irrational anti-gay status quo; the result is discrimination, prejudice and hate–definitely un-African values.”

It was a powerful moment and an impressive start to my visit to this big country with modern cities, aggressive LGBT activists and a the huge Kalahari desert.

Follow-up: in 2014 a high court decision was handed down that ruled in LeGaBiBo’s favor. The state had acted illegally by denying registration rights to the organization. See this report from Pink News.

Caine, Pilot, Monica and Uyapo
LeGaBiBo is the only LGBT organization in Botswana. (There is a small trans and intersex organization called the Rainbow Identity Association that succeeded in getting registered with the government in 2010 because it was not a gay ‘sexual orientation’ group, but rather a support group for ‘alternative gender identity’ people.)

LeGaBiBo was formed about ten years ago in the shadow of laws that criminalized homosexual activity. Monica Tabengwa, Caine Youngman, Pilot Mathambo are part of the leadership of LeGaBiBo, among others. Their ally is Uyapo Ndadi the director of Bonela (Botswana Network on Ethics, Laws and HIV/AIDS). All four are the driving force behind this courageous effort against religious and political oppression in Botswana. I met all four and experienced their intelligence, articulateness and determination to take on the daunting task of fighting back against blind ignorance and deliberate bigotry that runs recklessly throughout the Botswanan culture fueled by distorted Christian beliefs and ignorant politicians.

Being gay in this country was since colonization by England in the 19th century (independence came in 1966), an outlaw condition according to now archaic Victorian legal statutes and social standards. Although not vigorously enforced (clearly reflecting the irrelevant irrationality of the law) the stigma still reverberates culturally and is felt personally by most LGBT individuals.
Bonela is a non-governmental organization (NGO) formally established in 2001 to support human rights initiatives in the area of HIV/AIDS and to facilitate concerned organizations and individuals committed to protecting and promoting the rights of all people affected by HIV/AIDS. (photo right, Caine Youngman)

LeGaBiBo
On their website LeGaBiBo states their mission: To build an independent non-partisan organisation that promotes the recognition, acceptance and equal protection human rights of the LGBTI community in Botswana.

LeGaBiBo’s objectives as an LGBTI organization are: to promote a non-discriminatory legal framework for LGBTI community; to create a community that is educated and sensitized on LGBTI issues; to recognize same-sex relationships; to create a safe space where the LGBTI community can interact; to empower the LGBTI community so as to advocate for their rights; to promote sexual health amongst the LGBTIs.

These noble aims are substantial (and daunting) for one small organization, but as of 2019 they have been powerfully effective.

They share office space on the second floor of the larger Bonela organization and have two paid positions who manage the paperwork and strategy for legal and organizational matters and they have a Facebook page.

The ‘scene’ consists of of friendship circles who gather spontaneously or by intent at gay-friendly restaurants or clubs around Gaborone or Francistown or Maun, the three major cities of Botswana. So it’s a subdued but not closeted scene as I found out a few days later.

Time Goes On–the World Changes
Time moves on and societies change. Across Africa in very recent years homosexuality as a taboo topic has broken out of the traditional stifling closet first shut-up by the puritanical European imperial colonists; for Botswana it was England. For better and for worse, the phenomenon of same-sex attraction, actually involving very few Africans, has captured disproportionate media attention away from the pervasive and crushing issues of poverty, corruption, unemployment and HIV across the continent.

Hot-button media headlines about gays in recent years in Uganda, Malawi, South Africa, Senegal, Egypt, Kenya, Zimbabwe have broken the silence around homosexuality, beginning with the fiery rhetoric about HIV being a gay disease that first brought the issue to public notice more than a generation ago. But because the vast majority of HIV infected people are not gay, the initial ‘gay curse’ has eased and AIDS is now considered a pan-African health issue for all people.

In the shadow of the plague numerous government and charity (NGO) associations have been established to operate as health education and treatment organizations, some with same-sex issues (usually MSM) as a quiet secondary focus. (photo right, pro-gay poster: “Mother if you knew I was gay, would you have stopped loving me?”

Building on this, starting only within the past decade, a whole other ‘force’ has emerged regarding sexuality–gay rights. Once unthinkable as a viable issue, the idea of homosexual orientation is advocated as a valid condition/attribute deserving of recognition, tolerance and equality before the law. ‘Being gay’ as an identity, as a political, legal and humanitarian issue has swept across the continent. This has created a culture war front that has evoked wildly bigoted opposition and sometimes violence from governments and religions proclaiming the sanctity of the family, the righteousness of church and the authority of the state, all lined up against homosexuality.

Botswana’s Turn
Then Botswana took its turn. Spurred on by pro-gay judicial and legislative successes in India, Eastern Europe, South America and others to break the irrational stranglehold of religious/political dogma on civil matters such as reproductive rights, sexual orientation rights, marriage rights–matters that should not have to be fought over–Botswana’s LGBT citizens  pushed back in a determined way. The natural right of human beings to live at choice, freely without imposition of institutions or governments have been presented in a public forum for the first time here.

The newspaper Botswana Gazette on February 23, 2011 ran a full front page story headlined ‘Gays Sue Government’ covering the press conference by Bonela announcing the legal challenge. (photo left) Bonela director Uyapo Ndadi, (pictured) spearheading the effort, along with LegaBiBo, said human rights should not be subjected to narrow personal or religious views. All citizens are equal or they are not.

In their separate press statement, quoted above, LeGaBiBo challenged politicians who advocate homophobia as a cynical distraction from larger issues such as HIV and poverty. One sign of official opposition to be encountered in the struggle came from the Minister of Labour and Home Affairs Peter Siele when he said, “I am not aware of any group of homosexuals…as a parent I would find it difficult to go around Kgotla meetings advocating for legalization of such things.” His statements reflected both misunderstanding of sexual orientation (hiding behind such vague notions as ‘family values’) and ignorance of any gay group (LeGiBiBo has been around since 1998). Obviously the Minister was not around then.

(See this report about a 1994 arrest of two men found violating Sections 164 and 167 of the Penal Code by “having carnal knowledge of each other’. The case stretched out over nine years and eventually dissolved in legal arguments about the constitutionality of the statute itself.  See Summary of High Court decision in Kanane v. State )

Monica–Lawyer and Mother
It’s not difficult to find the ‘community’ here. Thanks to the internet and the relatively small number of out LGBT people, I was able to meet half a dozen activists, students and regular citizens within a couple of days in Gaborone. Doubtless there are gay and lesbian folks beyond this capital city (population 185,000) but there are no gay gatherings in the outback in smaller towns that surround the huge Kalahari Desert, which takes up most of central Botswana.

My first sit-down was with Monica Tabengwa, (photo right) an articulate and forceful lesbian human rights lawyer and LeGaBiBo officer who was instrumental in drawing up the high court complaint. She is truly a ‘big Mama’ in both size and compassionate parenting of an adoptive son.

In school the kids have health/sex health education but little if any mention of homosexuality so what children learn is from peers and in the public forum. Mostly it is not positive because of social, political and religious homophobia. Intimate sexual matters are much in the closet as it is not a topic that parents feel comfortable discussing. Recently she heard her son react negatively to a TV report about homosexuals. She was surprised at his reaction and brought up the issue with him.

Her recent work, along with others, has been composing and refining the strategic litigation against the government (submitted on the same day we spoke). The overall plan has three components: composing the litigation; developing a public education program; and capacity building of LeGaBiBo to be an effective organization.

Another facet of Monica’s legal work is with the doubly-disenfranchised community of sex workers, which she calls ‘transactional work’, who operate in very underground manner, often at truck sties along well traveled routes or by internet hookup.  They are disenfranchised from the straight and gay population as well as from the law since prostitution is illegal. There are male and female sex workers. The women are more visible and available and more at risk of HIV because in selling sex the customer names the game. Poor sex workers are reluctant to turn down a trick even if the customer refuses to wear a condom, putting both people at risk for STDs.

“Male sex workers are virtually all homosexually inclined since very few women in Botswana would or could pay for sex.” These men are the highest risk group for HIV since their ‘business’ is with total strangers who have no personal concern for those who service them. These men–who sometimes appear as transvestites to appeal to otherwise reluctant straight men–don’t/can’t consistently demand their johns wear condoms. Money talks louder than rubber to a prostitute in dire need of money and hormones speak louder to a horny trick.

The ‘Scene’ in Gaborone
As for the gay community in Gaborone, although Monica said it is basically “underground” in any formal sense that is not an accurate description. There is an active not-out/not-in network of friendship circles and a handful of clubs/restaurants/bars that are gay friendly. Of these, only one club/disco is considered gay (although not exclusively): Grand West, where LGB people can hold hands, dance close together and sometimes kiss.

Another club in the city outskirts, becomes a gay friendly club after 9 or 10 PM. Aside from this scattering of venues, anyone looking for a specific out scene will not find one. It’s unlikely any place could afford to be exclusively gay since the number of LGBT people in Gaborone is limited. There are only 5 million people in the whole country (that’s 8 people per square mile–vs Hong Kong with 14 thousand per!) and only 185,000 in the capital. Since most gay folks are in the closet or married, the customer base is insufficient to make a profit with a gay only venue.

LeGaBiBo offers meetings such as social gatherings, support groups, movie nights, parties, hotline, peer counseling, youth groups or interventions.

As for the lesbian scene in Gaborone, like the guys, it is also blended into the larger social scene. Women in couples or singly go to the gay-friendly mixed bars often with friends to chat, dance or cruise for new acquaintances. It’s no different for them than anyone else out for a night of interaction, a bit of draught, some gossip, dance and perhaps a pick-up. It’s mostly a night out with friends. The other mainstay of lesbian life are small gatherings of friends for dinner at home or at a restaurant. See story about lesbian couple coming out.

As for gay bashing, Monica contrasted Botswana with South Africa (RSA), which has a history of violence left over from the apartheid era, from racism, from rich-poor resentment, from social inequality as well as tribal rivalry. Given such a mix of anger sources, it is no surprise, Monica said, that homophobia in RSA is often laced with violence. Violence was how one solved problems there and how apartheid was eventually defeated.

But in Botswana the history has been much calmer. Certainly not free of conflict but not the at same level of violence. The push for independence from Britain was mostly negotiated; no major warfare; no reprisal killings, no brutal leaders (as in neighboring Zimbabwe) who suppressed political opponents. In Botswana elections were held, a president and parliament were elected, the Union Jack was lowered and the new Republic of Botswana tri-colored (black, blue and white) was raised. A humanitarian president Khama led the nation into freedom and prosperity for the first 14 years and that progressive policy has continued to the present.

HIV
Much discussed in school is HIV since Botswana still has a high incidence rate. (I saw a primary school with billboards of HIV prevention painted on the exterior walls). This is not due to a high level of promiscuity or unusual lapse in morals but rather to the scientific finding that Botswana has a strain of HIV that is more easily transmittable–HIV1 (vs HIV2 which is harder to transmit). (photo right, public anti-HIV billboard)

According to the Avert AIDS Charity, report, “Botswana was hard hit by AIDS. In 2009 there were an estimated 300,000 adults living with HIV – or one quarter of the population aged 15 and over. Considering Botswana’s population is below two million, the epidemic has reached disturbing proportions. The country has an estimated adult HIV prevalence among 15-49 year olds of 24.8%, the second highest in the world after Swaziland. HIV and AIDS has had a devastating impact on Botswana. Life expectancy at birth fell from 65 years in 1990-1995 to less than 40 years in 2000-2005, a figure about 28 years lower than it would have been without AIDS.”

“In response to this, Botswana became the first African country to aim to provide anti-retroviral drugs to all its needy citizens. The success of this treatment programe has made Botswana an example for other African nations to follow. Yet even though it has achieved universal treatment access (that is at least 80% of those who need HIV treatment are receiving it), the country continues to suffer greatly from AIDS. If it is ever to defeat the epidemic, Botswana must find a way to halt the spread of HIV.”

“Botswana National AIDS Co-ordinating Agency (NACA) was formed in 1999 and given responsibility for mobilizing and coordinating a multi-sectoral national response to HIV and AIDS. NACA works under the National AIDS Council, which is chaired by the President and has representatives from across society including the public and private sectors, and civil society. During this time, a number of developments occurred including routine HIV testing, increased VCT centers and the provision of anti-retroviral drugs through the public sector.”

In 1995 the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Botswana Government began a collaboration called BOTUSA, to work on public health research and programs to combat TB as well as HIV/AIDS. BOTUSA has grown substantially since 2000, and is now part of the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR).13 PEPFAR contributed $55 million to HIV/AIDS programs in Botswana in Fiscal Year 2006 alone.

With help from these and other partners–including the Global Fund, the Harvard School of Public Health, the Botswana-Baylor Childrens Center, and numerous faith-based and community-based organizations–Botswana has mounted one of Africa’s most comprehensive programs of HIV/AIDS prevention, treatment and care.

Although Botswana has succeeded in achieved universal treatment access to HIV treatment lingering stigma, denial and too few trained personnel continue as major hindrances to people accessing education and services. Crucially, ignorance of one’s HIV status continues to spread the disease in rural impoverished areas. The disease still carries the stain of infidelity, promiscuity, and prostitution. (Injecting drug abuse is not reported to be a significant problem here, probably because of the cost of that habit.)
Read more at (http://www.avert.org/aids-botswana.htm.

Recently the former president of Botswana, and current chairperson of the Botswana National AIDS Council (NAC), Festus Mogae, expressed his concern that HIV infection rates in prisons are being ignored. “if men go to prison without the virus and come out infected, then we should take interest in that… men having sex within–in and out of prison–is not a fact that can be ignored. It is not my interest whether this is a legal or illegal activity because the main goal is to prevent new infections in the country.” Bonela has long called on the government to provide condoms in prison, a position advocated by Mogae as well as the Minister of Health, John Seakgosing (who is also an ordained clergyman). Mogae is in favor of decriminalizing homosexuality.

Botswana Gay Life is Underground–Not!
One evening during the week-long InterVarsity Games and Culture, held every year between Botswana, Swaziland and Lesotho universities (these 3 countries have a certain bond since they did not go through apartheid), the swimming pool at the University of Botswana was the venue for the swimming competition between the three universities. By intention it seemed a pleasant gathering place for a small cadre of gay guys. The competition was a rather amateur affair with all the races only 50 meters long. I had plans to meet Caine there since we are both Gay Games swimmers.

In true Botswana style the meet started almost an hour later than scheduled–“African time“. And also in style was the gathering of a handful of Caine’s friends in the spectator stands to watch the athletes and share gossip, personal news and to meet me. What I thought would be just the two of us gradually grew to half a dozen friends of Caine’s, mostly gay plus two very gay-friendly guys. This is a highly social culture; where two gather it soon becomes four or eight. People just show up.

That’s how I met Reggie and Lyndon and Caine’s brother Ndiye (plus Thabiso and Thabo, the two ‘friendly’ ones)–all part of Caine’s ‘entourage’ of friends (photo left, Caine in red shirt). They call Caine their ‘papa’ since he is older but not by much. The camaraderie was very obvious as they touched and talked, hung on each other and Caine got a massage. Lyndon and Reggie occasionally leaned on my shoulder as we talked about the alleged gay closet here as well as family matters (parents’ reactions), clothing (the ruinous straight style of very baggy clothes), early realization that they were ‘different’, coming out to others (Reggie at 15, Lyndon at 16), high school teasing and friendships. And of course, the local ‘scene’.

Lyndon and Reggie feel at ease in their lives–and at ease talking in public. Lyndon, 23, is the son of a racially mixed parentage, his father is originally from England and his mother is Motswana. They are divorced and both living in Gaborone so Lyndon has two homes. He wears necklaces and bracelets and sports a thin mustache and wears his hair in small dreadlocks. Both he and Reggae have had separate relationships which did not last long. In the past few recent years Lyndon said he has seen “dramatic change” in attitudes toward LGBT people in Gaborone while also noticing that gays are coming out younger and more confidently–and dressing more fashionably. “People from 17 to 26 seem more open to gay people. You can see this especially at the clubs and discos.”

Reggie, 26, is a lean, sharp-eyed young man with a quick wit, braided hair and a pierced silver ring in his lip, a playful demeanor and is quietly outrageous–and a “great dancer” at the disco. He said he was not harassed in high school (in Francistown, Botswana’s second largest city) for being gay. Rather quite the opposite. His self-confidence and smart attitude gained him a circle of friends who also served as a sort of protective ring against potential homophobic students. “People usually weren’t bothered by me being different. If someone teased me I teased them back. I have a fast tongue. But as a culture we don’t bother others; even though I was obvious it wasn’t’ a big deal in school. It would have been ten years ago but not now.” (photo right: elephant in Botswana’s Okavango Delta, near Francistown)

Both friends are out to their families and are well past the initial stage of family upset. Both of their fathers are quietly accepting of their sons. Lyndon’s mother is re-married with a husband who is not too happy about Lyndon’s sexuality and his mother is kindly oblivious to it so he easily circulates between his father’s house, where he lives, and his mother’s.

Both are willing to tell others about themselves if asked and are not reluctant to dress in a manner that suits them, which I observed was only slightly ‘avant’, accessorized with some jewelry and minor body piercings.

Lyndon added, “of course you always have to be aware of where you are and who is there. I don’t take foolish risks and avoid unsafe situations. We don’t have gay bashing here generally but some drunks may become hostile in the right situation or feel provoked if a gay guy is too flaming or too ‘out’. Personally I don’t like to see gay guy being flamboyant or in your face. It’s risky and unnecessary. They feel that lesbians have an easier time since female affection is common in public and people tend to be more open toward them, or they really don’t care about them enough to harass them or be rude.

As we spoke Reggie (photo left) noticed four apparently straight guys sitting two rows in front of us at the pool who could hear some of our conversation. He noted that a couple of times one or two turned around to see us with a frowning expression. But that was all. After a while the foursome walked away. “You see that’s how most people are. They know what’s going on but they don’t care that much. If it’s not in their face, they just mind their own business.”

(Except for parliament member Pono Moatlhodi  who made known his irrational biblical homophobiic views “condemning homosexuals, maintaining they will do little to help efforts combat HIV in prisons…I don’t like those people and will never tolerate them.” To which Lorraine Setuke, Vice Chairperson of LeGaBiBo, responded, “this is a thoughtless, barbaric, derogative and extremely demeaning statement intended to cause harm to all persons who identify as gay.” Also see this rebuttal by Caine and the Facebook page against homophobia.)

Neither Reggie nor Lyndon felt the gay scene was ‘underground’ in Gaborone. They both stated dating in their teens and Lyndon had a steady boyfriend for a while in high school. Currently he has a boyfriend he’s been seeing for a few months. Reggie is no longer in a relationship and is looking around for Mr. Right. He said gays usually meet new people though friends and friends of friends or at the discos, especially Grand West, or online, especially on Facebook. The mentioned another friendly venue in town, the Cafe Dijo in Gaborone owned and operated by a gay couple from South Africa. Reggie also mentioned that once a year Bonela sponsors a big gay bash (as in party).

What accounts for the lack of violence that one sees in South Africa or America or Eastern Europe?
“We are a peaceful country. We are not aggressive, we have not fought wars getting to independence (from England in 1966) and we have not lived under brutal leaders. Our first three presidents were good people who did not harm the people but ensured democracy,” said Lyndon.  Apartheid taught people to be violent. Communism taught people to hate. America has the hateful Bible belt around their throats. “But here…our flag has no red in it. The dominant color is light blue like the peaceful ocean with two narrow white stripes, for white people, and a wider black stripe for black people.” It was a refreshing explanation of their flag; something I’d never heard before about any national symbol.

A word From the Delta
The Okavango Delta in northern Botswana, near the city of Maun, is the world’s largest inland delta fed by the Okavango River that flows south from Angola. The result of this flood plain of 15,000 sq km is a garden of plenty for animal and plant life. Our tourist group of six was taken through the Delta in three canoes by three guides who moved us quietly through the reeds and waterways with long poles, like gondola drivers. (photo right) My guide was native Motswana man, Enoch Martin with whom I spent some while the others went for a bush walk on an island where elephants, crocs, zebras, eagles and hippos make their habitat.

After lunch, I asked Martin and another fellow guide, a native woman named Judith who happened to be there if they were aware of men who were attracted to men and women attracted to women. Martin said he was and Judith assented, through Matin’s translation. She did not speak English. Both grew up in Maun, the largest town in northern Botswana, where they finished secondary school (high school) and had gone to tourism training (3 years).

I asked their opinion of gay people. I’m sure they had never been asked that question since their answers were hesitant and brief: Judith at first said something to the effect (translated from Setswana) that giving love is a good thing whether to a man or a woman. She may not have understood my question, delivered through Martin who seemed uncertain how to explain it, because a few minutes later she said it was not a good thing. I repeated what she said and she suggested that both ideas were true: loving is a good thing but  man-man or woman-woman was not good but she was hesitant in her tone.

Martin made a similar comment. He has seen and heard about “such people” in Maun. Giving love is a good thing to do but gay loving was wrong. I asked if this idea came from the church (protestant in this area). It was obvious he had given virtually no serious thought to this idea before and did not seem to understand when I said people were born that way, just like his black skin or my green eyes. He essentially was ignorant of any deep understanding of human sexuality but on the other hand he was not hostile or aggressive his responses. (photo left, rural village)

He willingly wrote out the words in the Setswana language for same-sex attraction: “motho yo o ratang” which he said roughly translates  as ‘man giving loving to another man’ (homosexual person).  For a woman in love with another woman he wrote “mosadi a ratana le mosadi jaaka ene”.

So that was the word from the bush on that topic!

Another Dinner with the Boys
After a two week drive around Namibia and Botswana to see the Kgalagadi Desert, the sands dunes on Namibia’s Atlantic coast and the wild animals in Etosha Park and the Okavango Delta, we returned to Gaborone for a couple of days and invited ‘the boys’ to join us for another evening meal at Bull & Bush restaurant.  Pilot (advocacy officer of LeGaBiBo), Thabo, Kennedy, Reggie (3 university students), Thabo’s cousin Jeremy and the two of us (Michael and Richard) huddled over ribs, burgers and fries.

This is the gay scene in Gaborone: a cadre of friends getting together to talk gay-guy stuff including dating, boyfriends, sex, children, family, gaydar, the current law suit against the government, a “best kept open secret in Botswana” (not revealed in this story), the My Star amateur TV talent show (in which Pilot competed), straight marriage and parenting, fidelity, sexual-attraction-vs-compatibility (discussed with a bi-guy named Thabo), clothes, being flamboyantly gay as an offense to gays, being a non-activist as a form of gay activism, and Reggie playfully cruising Thabo’s cousin. We could have been anywhere in Europe or North America and sounded and appeared the same as these young guys in Botswana.

(See ‘Young Men and the Construction of Masculinity in Sub-Saharan Africa; Same Sex Attraction, page 21. An 80-page research report by the World Bank)

And that’s an important point to be made clear. Urban modern gay life in Botswana is not some exotic, repressed, primitive, mysterious, closeted cadre of uneducated black guys speaking in native tongues (although they do speak Setswana if they choose). Rather the opposite: articulate university students and graduates driving their own cars, each with a cell phone, fashion jeans, styled braided or dreadlocks hair (the common mode these days), speaking fully fluent ‘American’ English, cracking jokes, some with their own apartment and some living with their family, planning a night out at Grand West gay-friendly disco where a mixed crowd of hundreds will dance and drink and cruise other guys looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right-away or not looking but just shouting over the loud music and shaking their booty. No different than Baltimore, Berlin or Milan–and much less crowded. (photo right, downtown Gaborone)

(See news report about trans person (FTM) Skipper Mogapi ‘Growing Up Gay in Botswana’ from Queerty.com)

Despite the abstract presence of a nasty anti-gay law, the LGBT scene in this young country of good governance, prosperity, poverty, free primary and secondary education, free medical care including HIV medications, and a fast growing economy in this “least corrupt country” in Africa.

But HIV remains a spectre that is ever present, mostly for heterosexuals but MSM are among the most vulnerable groups. Approximately one in six is infected giving Botswana the second highest infection rate in the world after nearby Swaziland. Nevertheless, among straight men there remains strong resistance to using condoms partly due to personal beliefs and attitudes and catholic church opposition. Among the gathered boys at the Bull & Bush that evening condom usage was high, so they claimed.

Dinner with the girls
My final evening in Botswana was a meal at Linga Langa restaurant at Riverwalk Mall in eastern Gaborone with Monica Tabengwa, Lame Olebile and her partner Thandie, and Kagiso Sebina (whose girlfriend of 2.5 years lives in Francistown). (photo left, Lame Olebile in the LeGiBiBo office)

This the lesbian scene in Gaborone, like the gay male scene, a small gathering of friends: a human rights activist, a human rights lawyer and mother, an analyst/consultant for a US-sponsored health research organization and a manager in a brewery. The talk was about first meeting partners; Legibibo work; the progress of current law suit against he government; loss of funding from Hivos and Ford Foundation because Botswana is considered too well off to receive charity (diamond mining); getting new revenue from OSISA (Open Society) for a 3 year grant; the 1994 gay arrest for ‘in flagrante delicto’ of two consenting guys (see report above under ‘Botswana’s Turn’); and a spicey discussion about sexual attraction to other women.

Monica said social gay meetings were difficult to arrange because many LGBT people outside Gaborone cannot afford a taxi to the meet and cannot afford a meal at a restaurant. “It’s not so much an issue of hiding as it is of money. This keeps LGBTs from coalescing into a community”. Class separates, color separates, money separates, gender separates, gays separate from straights.

So, as usual around the world, an unpublicized community emerges without form, without leadership, without a formal social organization. A community of friends attracts like-minded others in overlapping circles. Fortunately in Botswana there are no homophobic goon squads, no raging fundies, no political firebrands (well, few), no aggressive police tactics so LGBT folks can pretty much live the lives they choose without much paranoia or danger.

Against Botswana’s background problems with economics, disease, environment and homophobia, the LGBT population in Botswana continue to pursue, privately, lives of freedom, opportunity and love.